Falling in love is great and inspiring. But keeping your love life private is as important as your love life itself. It doesn’t make sense to update your Facebook relationship status just because you met a handsome ‘dude.’
It may sound controversial. But sharing your relationship status to the world would only earn you jealously and enviousness.
Come to think about it. If you can keep your salary figure, investment plans, secrets, and sexual life private, why can’t you keep your love life that way? This gets you thinking. It’s the first blonder young people make when in love.
Now don’t get me wrong… I’m not suggesting that you keep your love life private forever. But you should keep your facebook relationship status private until you are married to your partner officially.
Let me tell you a story about my 21 years old cousin, Angela. When she met her first boyfriend, she was madly in love. It was all over her facebook page. She uploaded the boy’s picture on her wall and was always posting beautiful things about him. In fact, she updated her Facebook relationship status to “in a relationship.”
I saw it and laughed. Immediately, I put a call across to advise her, but she didn’t listen. Do you know that first love madness most girls undergo? Good, she was actually in that stage.
A few weeks later, Angela updated her relationship status again to engaged. I felt a bit relieved after all; the relationship is heading somewhere. Oops! Guess what happened?
She changed her status to “complicated” the next day and wrote, “Love na scam”… My point? She changed her Facebook relationship status three times within a month. Here are the reasons you should make your relationship status private on facebook.
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Reasons You Should Make Your Facebook Relationship Status Private
#1. It’s Good To Keep Some Personal Information Private
It just doesn’t make sense to announce your new relationship to the world. In the real sense, your relationship status is an aspect of your life you should keep private.
I know letting your FB friends know about your relationship status won’t compromise your online security. Again, it won’t alarm your friends and relative on your friend’s list.
But it gives people around you an idea of what’s going on in your relationship. Except you are passionate about broadcasting your romantic success online, I think it’s better if you take your love offline.
#2. It won’t make your partner more committed
There’s a famous saying that a “yam that will burn will burn either roasted or boiled. You can’t make an unserious partner to be committed. Even if you use billboards for advertising the relationship, he/she will still cheat.
But if someone genuinely likes you, you don’t need to update your Facebook relationship status to make them stay. According to relationship experts, people who announce their relationship status online have insecurity about their partner’s commitment.
Let me tell you the ugly truth. Updating your relationship status on Facebook doesn’t change anything about your love life. It neither makes your partner more committed nor makes you happier.
If you think “in a relationship” field on your facebook profile will make a difference, then you must be a dreamer. People who are happy with their relationships don’t share it online. Always keep that in mind.
#3. It Doesn’t Make Your Relationship Better
Sometimes watching too much Zeeworld and Nollywood affect how we think when it comes to relationships. There’s never an ideal situation in dating. Also, bear in mind that challenges are inevitable. And sharing your relationship details won’t make your relationship any better.
I don’t know if I’m wrong, but you can’t impress a partner that doesn’t like you. Even if you make all the pictures on your facebook about him or her, it can’t change anything.
While you will get some likes and great comments for uploading pictures of you and your partner, it’s just a short term emotional booster. It wouldn’t make you or your partner happier, more romantic, or have better communication.
You see, focus more on developing your relationship than broadcasting it online. After all, you aren’t in a love competition with anybody. Or are you?
#4. Sometimes Updating Your Facebook Relationship Status gives Room for Commentary
Whenever you share your love details online, you are giving rooms for comments. Don’t forget that Facebook allows you and your partner’s friends to comment on your new relationship status. And it always comes with a series of comments.
Trust me, not giving room for such comments would be better. And the only way to avoid it is not to update your Facebook relationship status.
#5. Breaking Up May Be Challenging When You Make It Official Online
I know it isn’t advisable to think about how a relationship might end. But thinking about it will always put you on a safer side of the situation should things go wrong.
A wise man once told me that “If you are dealing with humans, hope for the best and expect the worst.” Always have this in mind before you try to update your Facebook relationship status.
Let me ask you a question. Have you ever imagined the type of response and feed story you will generate when you try to change your status back to single?
People will start asking questions and making some silly comments. These questions and comments will make you more depressed.
If you are excited by the lovely comments, people will make when you update your Facebook relationship status, then wait until you things go wrong with your partner. That’s when you will see the real definition of salvage.
These are the five reasons why I believe you should make your facebook relationship status private.
By the way, many people often use different relationship status on facebook that they don’t even know the meaning. Why would someone who’s single and never been in a relationship use “complicated” his/her relationship status? In the next section, you will learn the true meaning of the Facebook relationship status update.
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The Meaning Of Every Facebook Relationship Status Update
Single is the most common relationship status on facebook. If you see someone updates “I am Single” on facebook, it means either of the following things;
- The person is probably angry with her partner and has changed it to make him feel bad.
- He or she is genuinely single.
- The person is actually in a relationship, but his/her partner isn’t on facebook. So, they want to fool people a bit.
- Some people may be married but failed to update their status as a result of laziness.
#2. In A Relationship
This status update is arguably the most complicated of all of them. In fact, it’s more complicated than “it’s complicated.” Funny right? But it’s the truth. Here are some of the true meanings behind the status….
- It could be that she is dating a new guy, and the change in the status is to see how he responds to it. In other words, she wants to know the new guy’s level of seriousness.
- Also, the person might not be in a relationship but wants to make his ex-partner jealous.
- It could also mean that she’s dating several guys, but she didn’t link any names. So, her secret is safe that way.
- He has been asking a lady out, and she’s showing a green light. Updating the status to “In a relationship” could make the difference
- She could be faking it just because all her friends have boyfriends. And she doesn’t want to be left out. I have seen instances when a lady buys herself flowers to give the impression that she’s in a relationship.
- She doesn’t like the fact that guys always slide into her DM to ask her out. So, she feels if her relationship status changes, it could deter them from doing it.
Engaged Facebook Relationship status is true most times. But there are a few exceptions to it.
- It could be that the lady is not engaged, but she updated it to prompt her boyfriend to take action.
Married is a facebook relationship status people seldom joke with. When someone updates that he or she is married, most times they are telling the truth.
#5. It’s Complicated
You must have seen the status “It’s complicated” on a few of your friends facebook wall. Here is the true meaning behind it;
- My love life has been unstable. I have a series of fights and temporary breakups up your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife.
- It could be that you are in love with someone who doesn’t feel the same way.
#6. In An Open Relationship
People often use the status “In an open relationship” on facebook to tell their partners that they aren’t committed anymore indirectly.
This is actually the saddest Facebook relationship status. It means that the person was previously married, but his/her partner is no more.
For every separated relationship status you see on facebook indicates one of the following;
- The person dumped her husband.
- He wants to end things with his wife; this is a subtle way of letting her know.
- I’m separated legally, but I don’t want to answer any of your questions.
There are no two ways about it. Divorced status is what it is. I don’t think anybody will be pranking with Divorced as a facebook status.
#10. In A Civil Union
Facebook recently added “in a civil union” as one of their status options. It means two things which are;
- I’m gay who’s using this status because I can’t get married legally in my state.
- He isn’t gay, but want to get his friends’ attention.
In my opinion, keeping your facebook relationship status private is still the best. After all, whatever happens in Las Vegas stays in Las Vegas. Similarly, whatever happens in your love life remains in your love life?
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